Perspective. We all can get caught up in our own worlds assuming that we aren't enough and that others are making the same assumption with us. I can't tell you how many times I have to remind myself that I am enough, and my hard work is, too.
It was our 21st wedding anniversary, and we decided to go to Las Vegas. Inexpensive flights, nice hotels, and all my favorite super brand shops: Louis Vuitton, Channel, Tiffany's, Prada, Gucci, you get it, $500 for a scarf that is the most beautiful and soft scarf you have ever felt. Still incredible prices but fun to look at.
I talked my husband into shopping with me. We normally window (dream) shop, but some store had 60% off clearance prices. So I actually tried on and purchased some clothes. This is where I learned my lesson. While I was trying on clothes I hear...
"Go get me a size 12." Thinking in my head, hey, that is my size. This beautiful lady comes out with her pants falling off of her body. We meet in the 3-way mirror of the dressing room. Then she says,"Grrr! I work so hard to be thick and juicy, but I just can 't seem to get there no matter how hard I work." Then, frustrated, she asked her friend to go pick up size 8 pants.
I stood there so stunned and confused and grateful. I have worked so hard, and no matter how hard I work I am always a size 12 pant. I want so bad to be that 8, but I am not made that way. I work out every day and try to stay in the healthy calorie range. This is just who I am.
I looked at her and jokingly said, "I would trade." She agreed jokingly. Then with that look between women, we realized we were exactly the way we were supposed to be.
Besides the great deals on clothes, I got a lot more this trip. Perspective. I say all the time that "digits are not definitions." I believe it. But I also am real. I see I have flaws. I buy clothes that fit and not worry about the number. Every once in a while I day dream of my high school years when I was super fit and trim. But after my experience, I realized my size was also what somebody was trying to achieve and couldn't get there. The world is not staring at me and thinking I am not enough. It's me. I do that to myself. This month is Love.
Loving ourselves takes more than we think. It is a constant battle. Digits are not definitions. The weight on the scale, the size of your pants, your age, or income are all measurements, not definitions. Let those you love and those who love you define you. Keep a real perspective of yourself, and you will be amazed at how much more beautiful you feel.